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My roommate finally has a job, after two years of being unemployed, and four months after running out of said unemployment.

We share a car. MY car, which I pay for everything for, aside from gas, which he helped pay for when he actually had money to do so. I pay for everything else regarding said car.

One of the tires had a couple of bulges in it. He pestered me to take it in and get it fixed or replaced, because it was potentially dangerous and could cause a blow-out at any time. This is reasonable. So I took it in today, and had it replaced. When I got home, he asked if they had looked at any of the other tires for issues as well. I said yes, it was mentioned that one of the tires was pretty low on tread and should be replaced soon. I opted not to, because I need to budget my expenses, because HELLOOO I'VE BEEN PAYING FOR EVERYTHING ON MY OWN FOR FOUR FUCKING MONTHS.

Anyway, he tells me, "Well, that doesn't really reassure me. I'd like to know that the car is safe to drive. Isn't safety an important enough reason to perhaps dip into your savings?"

Okay. Two things. 1) Regarding dipping into savings: What do you think I've been doing for the past four months in order to pay for all the daily bills and expenses? Something that should have never happened, because when you were close to running out of unemployment, you should have been busy looking for a job so that I wouldn't be stuck paying for everything on my own. 2) If you use the car as much as me, I should think that it wouldn't be unreasonable to expect you to help defray the costs of maintenance and repair of said car. What IS unreasonable is you expecting me to shoulder that entire burden on my own.

This can't go on for much longer, or I'm going to start shooting the walls. Or shooting someONE.

Date: 2013-10-13 04:46 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prettybirdy979.livejournal.com
He's unreasonable. Shoot him.

Seriously though, you should sit him down and make it clear that you're not taking all the expenses. Make it very very clear that if he thinks this is unreasonable well, it's your house, it's your car and you have proved you don't need him to pay the bills. There's the door and don't let it hit you on the way out.

Might be a wake up call to the...man.

Date: 2013-10-14 02:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pipmer1.livejournal.com
Yeah, you know what's going on. This was just... things like this keep happening that just make me more and more frustrated, to tears sometimes. So it's up to me to do something about it.

Date: 2013-10-14 12:07 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] opaljade.livejournal.com
It seems like an extremely unfair situation, my dear. Hope it gets resolved quickly! Keep us updated. *hugs*

Date: 2013-10-14 02:02 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pipmer1.livejournal.com
It's my own fault, really. I've let it go on for far too long. Time to screw up my courage :)

Date: 2013-10-17 02:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] opaljade.livejournal.com
Hi! Just wondering if things have improved. :)

Are you going to take part in any of the fandom fests/exchanges that are going around?

Date: 2013-10-21 02:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pipmer1.livejournal.com
Hi there! sorry it took so long to respond here.

Things have not really improved, but the tension has been building to the point where I'm going to just have to bite the bullet and have the conversation no one wants to have, and yet it is necessary.

I probably won't partake in the upcoming exchanges; I've got a large fic I'm trying to set in order so that I feel comfortable posting the first part, and anything else will just distract me from it. I first came up with the idea a year ago, almost exactly to the day, and it's just fear and anxiety that are stopping me from finishing it up. Plus I get distracted with other fic ideas :D

Thanks for checking up on me! I will let you know how it goes.

Date: 2013-10-14 02:12 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kestrel337.livejournal.com
Hope you are able to muster your courage, and that you get a good resolution. It certainly sounds terribly unfair, but I know how easy it is to just sort of coast because of this or that reason.

Date: 2013-10-21 02:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pipmer1.livejournal.com
coasting is an apt description. things are just too comfortable, and too much effort to try and break free. Safer and less stressful to just not rock the boat. but then again, it's getting a bit uncomfortable lately, and the negative energy is seriously affecting my state of mind. I can't function at optimum capacity, and time and opportunity are slipping through my fingers.

thank you so much for your support!


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